JOYOUS, SPARKLING CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM: THE IMPORTANCE OF WHO YOU HANG WITH

News from Denise and Summerhill Ranch:

There has been a drought in the Paso Robles area and finally there has been some rain.  While this was a blessing, the four goats had chosen to take shelter –all four of them were found in the dog house!!

The people you spend most of your time with:

· The 5 people whom you spend the most time with affect your sense of self, your self-worth, your sense of who you are. 

· If you hang out with dream stompers (those people who don’t believe in you or your dreams, and they don’t see the best in you), then it is very difficult to see the best in yourself. 

· If you have dream stompers in your life and you can’t get them out of your life because they are your family, find strategies to mitigate the effect they have on you. 

· If you want to expand your parameters in life and “step it up” so that you can increase the abundance in your life, you need to either move away from the dream stompers or find strategies so that when you’re with then, it’s not going to pull you down or affect your vibrational rate/energy field.

How do you know if a relationship works for you?

You can tell whether a relationship is good for you, because after you’ve been in someone’s company and you feel better, you know that it’s a relationship that’s good.  If you feel dragged down/depressed after being with them, then it’s not a good energy in your life.

Stategies to mitigate the effects of dream stompers:

· If, for example, a relative causes you to feel dragged down and it’s not possible not to be in their company, ask your relative to take a walk with you while she talks.  This way you can get fresh air, look at the clouds and have thoughts you want to have while still fulfilling your family obligation of being there for your relative.

· If someone is saying something negative to you, you can be shutting their words out inside your head by singing a song silently (as if you had an ipod on).  Don’t take in what the person is saying – the instant that you accept that bad feeling/energy, your energy/life diminishes.

· If you really want to have people who believe in you, see the best in you, and inspire you, become the kind of friend that they would like to have – be the kind of person that those people want to hang out with.  Look inside yourself.  If you want someone to support you, support others.  If you want someone to believe in you, believe in others.  If you want someone to celebrate your success without being jealous, celebrate the success of others without being jealous.

· If you want to work on yourself, go to Denise Linn’s website:  www.deniselinn.com and find a Soul Coach to help you – Denise Linn has trained all the Soul Coaches personally.  Soul Coaching can also be done by phone.

· If there’s no one positive around you or you’re having difficulty with someone, and there’s no way to shift the relationship, do this exercise.  Imagine this beautiful sea shore – it’s the shore of Infinite Love.  You’re walking on this shore, relaxed and feeling good about life.  Walking towards you is your nemesis – that person who stomps on your dreams or depletes your energy.  From a spiritual point of view, they are immortal, eternal, infinite and universal – from a spiritual perspective, that person has a big, beautiful soul.  Imagine that both  you and that person are coming towards each other as your Higher Selves.  Imagine that from the centre of your heart, you’re forming a heart connection; the Higher Self to the Higher Self (not the personalities or identities.  It could be that this particular person is in your life to allow you to learn and to grow.

Denise’s Wisdom of the Week:

“We come here [to Earth] to learn and grow, and if everything were perfect, we probably wouldn’t grow as much.”

  

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